Thursday, 31 May 2012
How to Make an Important Decision
I hate decisions. I'm really indecisive. One of my favourite parts of turning vegetarian was that it knocked off most of the menu options when eating out!
Making an important decision can give you that horrible feeling in the pit of your stomach? How will I make the right choice? What if I make a mistake?
I don't like the conventional advice to "make a list of pros and cons" because at least in my case it often gets altered to fit what you think should give you the "right" answer, even if it's not right for you. For one thing, there isn't always one right answer, so don't over-analyse your decision! It's agonising and drags the whole process out. Don't worry so much!
Trust your gut instinct!
This amazing article from Psychology Today descibes how gut feelings and intuitions arise. It says that we absorb a multitude of information that we don't use immediately, but that the brain can piece together unconsciously to form a network of associations that it can access later. We often "know" the right decision immediately because we have subsconsciously analysed a wealth of knowledge that we didn't even realise we had.
Sleep on it!
It is wise to make decisions in the morning. This settles your mind and allows you to understand your gut decision more easily. Stop churning the options round and round and get some sleep!
Write yourself a letter
Write a letter to yourself discussing your options. Don't really think about what you're writing, just put pen to paper and write as if you were talking out loud. This is less calculated than the "pros and cons" technique so your subconscious has more of a say, so combines reason with intuition.
Imagine you decided already
The method that works best for me is to imagine that you have made the decision, one way or the other. Do you feel relieved or stressed? Excited or disappointed? This really helps you know which option is right for you.
How do you make an important decision?
P.S. Did you know there's an entire philosophy behind flipping a coin? It is known as Flipism.